Communication only Makes Your Relationships Stronger

A few days ago I had an interesting conversation with a gentleman while we were travelling. I learned alot about him in a very short amount of time. He was separated and somewhat bitter about being asked to move out. He had two twin daughters who were a few years older than my kids.

He made a connection between what the was going through and an episode of House that referred to a spouse cheating because they didn’t recognize that the other spouse was ill based on the color of said spouces skin. He indicated that he had lost about 30 lbs and that his wife didn’t recognize or notice the loss, this leading him to believe that she was cheating.

We talked a bit further about communication between people and how it is so very important to any relationship. Later as I reflected on the conversation I began to think about how women see themselves in a relationship when their partner starts to lose significant weight, but hasn’t talked to them about why or even that the sponce wants to lose weight.

I further thought about how that type of weight loss could be viewed from the partner’s perspective. Certainly I would be questioning my partner, but I expect to have a conversation about the weight loss as I might also want to participate. Weight loss could be seen as a sign that the partner losing weight is trying to better themselves to attract someone elses attention.

Additionally, weight loss like that could make the other partner feel that they aren’t doing enough to be attractive and if that person is already having body challenges or thoughts that are negative about themselves they may not want to recognize the weight loss in their partner.

The point being we make so many wrong assumptions because we are afraid of what the truth might be that cause rifts in relationships. We are often so afraid that what we will hear is negative that we forget about what really could be positive. That our assumptions could be creating a larger problem. We get so lost in the stories in our heads that they become reality when they aren’t what we really want. All because we are afraid to share, talk to and listen to those who are important in our lives.

I don’t know if the man’s wife is cheating, but I do know that he hasn’t told her why he is losing weight which causes it’s own problems.

If you LOVE someone talk to them about what you want, need and feel. When you don’t it appears you are hiding something which…causes assumptions and we all know where those lead.


Published by Sabrina J. Adams (Syryn TheVoice)

I have many different hats that I wear. Throughout my life I have been many different things: a small business owner, problem solver, mother, friend, sister, writer, designer, employee, manager, consultant, gamer, leader and many more buzz words that I can't think of. Many of these I still do, but some I have let go to focus more on the here and now. I like to share my experiences, ideas and funny things I run across. Ask me something and I will provide an honest and likely unfiltered opinion. I am still learning about life, myself, relationships, parenting and well everything else. I am not superwoman and don't really have my life together, but I manage and am willing to share my tips and learnings. Writing for me can be cathartic and sharing makes us not feel so alone in this crazy, mess of a world we currently inhabit.

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