Motherhood can equal better sex.
Being pregnant changes our hormones as well as increases the blood flow in our bodies. This can also increase the sensitivity of sensitive parts.
Another thing that changes however is also our relationship with our partners. Through continued communication and working through new experiences together your bond can increase. Your ability to really understand your partner can increase, dramatically.
After birth there are a few things that we women worry about. You are aroused and ready, but not as wet as you once had been, worry about vaginal muscles being loose, and that things just don’t feel the same as they used to. Here are some tips to help get around those concerns and challenges.
1. Lubrication is your best, best friend.
Okay so you used to be able to handle this on your own and didn’t need any extra help in the wetness department. After having a child your body is producing milk, this takes the extra moisture that you would have produced in your vigina away from that area. So guess what… Lube now takes it’s place. It’s okay!
2. Kegel Exercises
Are not just for making sure you don’t pee your pants. Doing just six minutes of these exercises a day will help your muscles get back in shape. Guess what these aren’t just for post-pregnancy ladies either. Kegel exercises help all women. The stronger your vaginal muscles are the better your organisms.
3. Re-discover what you like
Our bodies change after pregnancy and delivery. What might have been pleasurable prior may not be so much now. It’s okay. Now we get to play all over again. Learning what works now is just as fun, if not more so that knowing what worked before.
4. Take your time!
Communication is key. If you aren’t ready then don’t do it. If you are feeling worried talk to your partner. Try something new, or different, or just start from the beginning. Your body has changed, exploration needs to happen again to find out what is different. This can be fun. But you have to communicate.
The first few weeks and months of your new life with your little people is the most hectic, challenging and rewarding for your family. Take the time to enjoy this part, get into your routine and then find the moments of passion. Remember a kind word, touch or kiss keeps you connected to your partner!