Um I think we had a baby.
So you have bundled your little person into the car seat for the first time and realized you really should have practiced on a doll as figuring out where the numerous straps went was hopefully not as traumatic as it seemed. You get your obligatory ride in a wheel chair down to the main entrance, get in your car, and go home. Yay home, comfy bed, etc.
For the most part you’ll still be tired, very tired, sore, feeling beat up and trying to figure it all out. Here is where you start to feel overwhelmed by everything, yet in complete awe of your little person. You made that, you gave birth to that, and you really aren’t dreaming!
At this stage, don’t worry about the day to day obligations of running your house, making sure you connect with every friend, relative and random people you have to make sure they know you have a child. There is time for this later. Enjoy the first few days of getting settled at home. While help is always nice to have, you need to find your feet, your routine with your new person as you will have to do this by yourself at some point and as much as you like having everyone around, they won’t be there forever.
For those of us who had c-sections the extra help is wonderful for the first few weeks, as it’s hard to move around and well, doctors orders, don’t lift anything heavier than your child for 6 weeks. Follow these orders (as best you can). Hubby really can do the laundry…he won’t mess it up that bad.
One little thing that we did with our son when we brought him home…for the first week he slept with us in our bed. This was fine as we started to get to know the noises he would make when he was hungry or in distress. After that point we moved him into his own room and crib. Even when my husband went back to work our son slept in his own crib. While not every night has been perfect, we don’t have too many problems with him now at 2 yrs going to sleep. If he wakes up in the night he rolls over and goes back to sleep and has been doing this since he was weened.
Having your little person sleep in their own room also allows you to get some sleep as you aren’t awakened by every hiccup, snort or other noise that babies make in their sleep. A good monitor will work to alert you to any distress.
Moms – you need to take care of yourself too. Don’t ever forget that if you are rundown you aren’t going to enjoy your little people. Take the time you need to shower, get a hair cut, massage, etc. While they are little it’s so much easier to do those things and it makes you feel good, which does wonders for baby, daddy, and you!
The first two weeks are a blur, don’t worry…I am pretty sure it’s that way for everyone.
Great post, spot on.