Label Yourself First

Before you apply any label to any person check it against yourself first.  Especially if the label is more negative than positive.

Labels cause numerous problems in life.  We are given one from the day we are born and it relates to our sex.  Male or female.  It is a label that holds certain expectations and stereotypes.  Society expects us to complete the requirements to be that particular label and if we step outside of the label box we can be viewed negatively.

While this label is relatively harmless there are others that can be very hurtful.

As you are moving through a relationship you will label it’s stages…honeymoon, settling in, maturing, declining, whatever they may be.  You label your partner as boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, husband, etc.  These all indicate certain societal expectations, and these will change depending on your generation.

If you are looking to call someone stubborn ask yourself first why you think they are stubborn.  You may be surprised to see that you are also stubborn.  Not wanting to change something changeable is a representation of being stubborn, now there are times when not standing down is necessary, but if it happens all the time….well….you might be stubborn and might want to consider how you use that label on others who might just be trying to get you to try new things.

Ultimately when you are in a relationship you need to hold common definitions of each label you apply to your partner.  This goes a long way to defusing situations that get out of control when you label your partner and they don’t understand your true meaning.


Published by Sabrina J. Adams (Syryn TheVoice)

I have many different hats that I wear. Throughout my life I have been many different things: a small business owner, problem solver, mother, friend, sister, writer, designer, employee, manager, consultant, gamer, leader and many more buzz words that I can't think of. Many of these I still do, but some I have let go to focus more on the here and now. I like to share my experiences, ideas and funny things I run across. Ask me something and I will provide an honest and likely unfiltered opinion. I am still learning about life, myself, relationships, parenting and well everything else. I am not superwoman and don't really have my life together, but I manage and am willing to share my tips and learnings. Writing for me can be cathartic and sharing makes us not feel so alone in this crazy, mess of a world we currently inhabit.

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